What if Coaching Uncovers a Phobia?
Coaching questions are powerful things and their power must be respected. Managers who coach must realise that from time to time their coaching may uncover a bigger, deeper problem than they expect. It is for this reason that I always recommend that managers who coach develop at least a little insight into the signs of abnormal psychology. Consider for example, phobias.
We need to examine the cause and effect of phobias and the anxiety their sufferes can experience. ‘Phobia’ appears to be one of those psychological terms that have become rooted in everyday language. People uneasy with I.T. equipment complain of Technophobia and nervous maths students claim to be victim to Numberphobia and so on. In truth, however one is only phobic if one experiences some of the physical symptoms of anxiety in situations in which most other people are able to cope.
We can group phobias into three classifications:
Simple phobias – fear of a certain object or situation Social phobias – insecurity in public places Agoraphobia – fear of being in unfamiliar places
There are two main explanations as to why people develop phobias:
Learning Theory – which claims that a phobia will develop from an extremely intense experience, e.g. Watson and Rayner’s experiment with young Albert featuring rats and loud noises.
Psychoanalytic Theory – which suggests that a phobia is a conscious manifestation of an unconscious fear, e.g. Freud’s analysis of ‘little Hans’ in the early 1900s.
Each theory suggests a very different type of treatment:
Learning Theory – suggests systematic desensitization. In other words the sufferer is exposed to the source of their anxiety a little at a time.
Psychoanalytic Theory – suggests that treatment involves revealing the subconscious concern; usually with hypnosis.
One thing is for sure, telling the sufferer to ‘get a grip’ or mocking them for being afraid of something so daft is not going to help. For people with phobias the fear is very real.
So what should managers who coach do when these signs emerge in a conversation essentially concerned with budgeting or goal setting? Best advice would seem to be to keep to good coaching principles. Ask questions designed to raise awareness, generate responsibility and build trust then listen carefully and attentively to the responses. This is highly unlikely to make things worse and may actually do quite a lot of good.
After that, it’s a question of referring the coachee to the relevant professional. For this reason I recommend that all coaching managers familiarize themselves with their organization’s welfare procedure.
About the Author
Matt Somers is a coaching practitioner of many years’ experience. He works with a host of clients in North East England where his firm is based and throughout the UK and Europe. Matt understands that people are working with their true potential locked away. He shows how coaching provides a simple yet elegant key to this lock. For a bumper load of coaching tips and tricks – including FREE resources – visit http://www.mattsomers.com
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